7 Reasons Why Men Shy Away From Women Who Had Breast Cancer

During the 60tise when people did not speak so openly about sex like these days. This group of class – mates who were going through puberty when their hormones were running wild, were very curious how it feels to touch a woman’s breast.They talked one of the girls in their class into showing them her breast and she agreed. They were so excited with great anticipation to have the experience of their lives. They all lined up while the girl took off her blouse and pulled out one of her breast from her bra. They one by one touched her breast.After everybody touched her breast, one of them asked, “so, what we are going to do now”?The reason I am telling you this story is to show you how much our society puts emphasis on women’s breast as sexual object. In fact, God gifted women with breasts for one reason only, to breast feed her children. Being diagnosed with breast cancer is the most dreaded experience every women have.Why women have such fearsome reaction from breast cancer or mastectomy more than any other type of cancer?The reason is because it changes their image and the fear stems from how they will be perceived by men and the society in general.There is a great misconception about this issue in our society, especially from the men point of view. For example, a girl friend of mine named Diane, was engaged to be married, when her fiancĂ© found out that she had breast cancer he broke the engagement with her on the phone, claiming “she was not a woman anymore.”Or a young woman going out with a man few times and they get along fine. After she tells him she had breast cancer she does not hear from him anymore. After doing an extensive research and interviewing many men from various socio-economic group, age range, married men and single men, this is what I gathered.When men hear that a woman had breast cancer or a mastectomy, what pops to their minds are the following:1. If she lost her breast, they think she lost her femininity also. Therefore, she is not a woman anymore.2. If she is not a woman anymore, obviously she has lost her sexual desire.3. Therefore, they are not attracted to her anymore.4. They develop fear of not being able to have the option of foreplay,
prior to love-making.5. They think that a woman’s breasts are what make her a woman and if she had lost one due to a mastectomy, she is not a woman anymore.6. They know if they lost their own penis, they would not be able to have a sexual relationship. They feel that it’s the same situation with a woman if she lost her breast.7. They are not aware that men can face the same issue as well. All these misconceptions stem from the fear of the unknown.Breast cancer is not only women issue it’s a men issue as well. Statistics indicate that one out of seven women will have breast cancer sometime during their life times. However, breast cancer is uncommon in men. The ratio among men is 1 out of 1000.The only different between women having breast cancer and men having breast cancer is that, in case of women it changes their image especially if they had mastectomy. While if men have breast cancer it does not change their image and nobody thinks that they are not men anymore.With all my unconditional love to you all,

The Psychological Effects That Having Gynecomastia Has on Men

Gynecomastia is a condition that affects men of all ages; it is quite common in teenagers and young men. Tender tissue that looks like breast tends to grow under the nipples, giving the impression of regular female-like breasts. The main cause of gynecomastia is some hormonal imbalance caused by several different reasons, such as puberty, steroids consumption, over the counter medication and drug use. This condition is not easy to deal with; for men it is a very embarrassing condition, as the psychological effects that having gynecomastia has on men are really tremendous.Men have great difficulties with this condition, which is the main cause of antisocial behavior among young men and teenagers. Gynecomastia can cause serious distress, problems in self consciousness and awareness, low self esteem, embarrassment. Gynecomastia by default causes several self image issues to men, issues that need to be addressed by an expert, before they can cause serious psychological and social problems.In most cases, the medical part of the problem can be addressed and solved fast; whether it involves some medication and treatment, or surgery in more severe pathological cases, the condition is reversible and treatable, but the psychological effects of Gynecomastia are not easy to deal with. Most men have a hard time dealing with the emotional scarring caused by this condition. Gynecomastia can result in minority type complex behaviors, loss of self confidence and acceptance.Men with Gynecomastia usually are not eager to promote relationships with the opposite sex, fearing rejection. They tend to feel less masculine, less “men” and that can have serious effect on their behavior and attitude towards women. Although studies prove that women can accept such a condition, men do not seem to be happy about it. The emotional consequences of the disease need to be worked on additionally to any physical treatment.Masculinity doesn’t rely on the non existence of breasts – this is something that most patients hear all the time, however it can little affect or change their mind set. Men with Gynecomastia might need to deal with ridicule of others and the consequent emotions of shame and humiliation that can devastate their life.Most men have a hard time going to the sea or pool, or get undressed for any reason. In most severe cases, breasts cannot be hidden by clothes either; this means that fear of humiliation is always present.Gynecomastia is not a reflection of the sexuality of the sufferers, however statistics show that they usually suffer from insecurities about their sexual performances and appeal, due to the feminine appearance of their chest. Enlarge breasts can cause a social and sexual handicap resulting in complexes and disarray.In cases of gynecomastia, men should seek a medical consultation with an expert in order to determine the severity of the problem and address the physical and mental or emotional problems associated with the disease. The faster they deal with the physical part, the fewer chances are that they will be seriously affected by the psychological effects that having gynecomastia has on men.